You are Not Too Much: Embracing the woman God created you to be.
Have you ever been told — or felt — that you’re “too much”?
Too talkative.
Too emotional.
Too opinionated.
Too ambitious.
I’ve been told that my emails are too long.
That I’m too emotional about my kids growing up. (Can any mother EVER be too emotional about those milestones?)
That I like baking too much—yes? Why are you eating seconds while saying that to me?
Those words can stick to our hearts like labels we never asked for. And over time, they can make us shrink back, soften our voice, and dim the light God put in us.
But here’s the truth: God didn’t make a mistake when He made you.
God Designed You Intentionally
Psalm 139:13–14 says:
“For You created my inmost being; You knit me together in my mother’s womb.
I praise You because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”
When God knit you together, He wasn’t careless. He didn’t accidentally give you that laugh, that passion, that way of seeing the world.
The very qualities you may have been told to tone down could be the very tools He intends to use to bless others.
The Enemy Wants You to Dim Your Light
Jesus said in Matthew 5:14–16 that we are the light of the world. But you know what the enemy loves to do? Convince us that our light is “too bright” — so we hide it.
Sometimes that pressure comes from the outside — critical words, cultural expectations, or even well-meaning people who just don’t understand us. Other times, it’s an inside job — the voice in our own head telling us to quiet down.
But friend, God’s light in you isn’t meant to be muted. It’s meant to shine.
Jesus Loved People Who Were “Too Much”
Look at the Gospels and you’ll see Jesus gravitate toward people who didn’t fit the mold:
Mary of Bethany, who poured out a year’s wages of perfume in one extravagant act of worship. (John 12:3)
The woman at the well, who ran back to her village and couldn’t stop talking about Him. (John 4:28–30)
Peter, whose boldness and impulsiveness God shaped into leadership that would help build the Church.
God isn’t intimidated by your “too much.” He’s the One who gave you the capacity for it.
Living Fully Without Apology
Living in the fullness of who God made you isn’t about being loud for the sake of loud, or dramatic for the sake of drama. It’s about stewardship — using your God-given personality, gifts, and emotions to serve others and glorify Him.
Here’s how to start:
Identify Your “Too Much” Labels — Write them down. Then ask God to show you the Kingdom purpose behind each one.
Practice Holy Boldness — Speak up when the Spirit prompts you, even if your voice shakes.
Find People Who Celebrate You — Surround yourself with friends who see your God-given traits as gifts, not flaws.
Use Your Passion for God’s Glory — Let your energy, ideas, and creativity be channeled into serving others.
A Personal Reflection
I used to hear, “You’re too sensitive” as a criticism. But as I’ve walked with Jesus, I’ve seen how that sensitivity lets me notice when someone’s hurting, hear the Holy Spirit’s nudges, and write words that speak to tender places in people’s hearts. My emails that were too long became words of love to others in the form of blog posts.
The very thing I once wanted to change is the thing God uses to fulfill my calling.
Your “Too Much” Is Someone Else’s Lifeline
What feels like “too much” to one person might be exactly what another person needs. Your laughter could be someone’s reminder that joy is still possible. Your ideas could spark someone else’s courage. Your prayers could be the breakthrough another heart has been waiting for.
You are God’s workmanship (Ephesians 2:10). And His workmanship is never “too much” — it’s just right.
A Prayer for the Woman Who’s Been Told She’s “Too Much”
Lord, for the woman reading this who has been told to quiet down or shrink back, remind her that she is fearfully and wonderfully made. Show her how to use her gifts boldly for Your glory, and surround her with people who see the beauty in how You made her. Amen.
You don’t need to apologize for being who God created you to be. Step into it. Live it fully. And let His light shine through every bit of your beautiful “too much.”